#TheSW30 · rants

In the words of Jesus


Y’all seriously.  Today was a doozy.  Have you ever had those days when you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster ride of emotions? That’s how I’ve been feeling all day.  I started off sleepy (usual) but happy because I was greeted from a few late(r) night text messages from my Minneapolis girlfriends who had clearly had a little too much to drink on a school night.  I made it out of the house in time to stop at Dunkin (about a 50/50 occurrence) before hopping in the carpool car, which thankfully didn’t hit any out of the ordinary traffic.  So far, pretty good.  However, the minute we stepped out of the car into the chilled chocolate air, my day went to hell in a hand basket.  I won’t bore you with the details but I’ll tell you that by the time we walked out of the door (I was the carpool driver home), I was absolutely drained.  Laughing with coworkers, writing and re-writing a scathing email, hounding a cross-functional team member for shit they owed me two weeks ago, stepping outside for a breather, joking with co-workers about how crappy the day is, REPEAT.  Rollercoaster all day long.  Thankfully, I have an amazing roomie who had a great big bowl of turkey chili waiting for me at home.  It felt good to close the door on the day.  And now that I am settled home in bed, I need to answer question #6 of the Single Woman’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge.

6) Sound off on the quote, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants.”

To be honest, I don’t even know what this quote means but I will attempt to answer it.  I’ve heard that we (as people) are responsible or in control of creating their own destiny.  And so I would interpret this to mean that a woman can have the love life she wants if she creates it.  And if were interpreting that correctly, I would wholeheartedly disagree.  The difference between creating our own destiny and creating the exact love life we want is the word own.  The only thing we can 100% own (or control) in this life is ourselves — although sometimes, we as humans can’t even do that.

Even if we can own (or control) ourselves, what we definitely can not do is own (or control) other people’s behaviors, actions and feelings.  We can influence, advocate or even demand, but we can not own or control.  So I would venture to say we can’t have the exact love life that we want.  We can do control through our choices and actions what we will and will not put up with.  We can choose how we want to be love (by either accepting love extended to us or not) but that does not mean that every woman has the exact love life we want. (We could possibly come close — but exact — what is that even?)

And also, EVERY woman? I mean, that would be a very strong statement on behalf of every woman in the world and that just seems too aggressive, no?

Note: I could totally be misinterpreting this entire statement wrong. I mean, I don’t know – what do you think?

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